All about the festive period now. Here’s a few dos and don’ts that I try to practice for this mad time of year when keeping your (and remaining) cool is vital for the true gentleman. This is more of a note to oneself, but I am sharing it none the less!
Look after your staff and co-workers
If you are managing people or are the boss in some shape or form, then treat them well. A few kind words and thanks at the Xmas bash will not go amiss. You should get then something decent for Christmas too. Nothing worse than being a skinflint other than not even bothering to think of them that is. Just grin and bear it. All of it.
Leave the work party with dignity
Don’t get drunk. Don’t think the whole room adores you. Keep your composure. Have a laugh. Buy drinks. Enjoy it as best you can. When you start to feel the IPA or mulled wine really kicking in, then buy a round (excluding yourself), deliver drinks to the table and then head off home with your head held high. You’ll be the better for it on Monday in every sense.
Don’t buy a Christmas jumper
Christmas jumpers are for the kids. Let’s be honest. They are a waste of money and environmentally unacceptable. Men my age are supposed to know better. Spending a bit more and you can get a merino wool jumper that you will wear. Spend a little more and you can get an Aran sweater. Little more again and you are in cashmere territory. These all add so much more to your wardrobe and style than the reindeer edition of sweatwear. A Christmas jumper is the epitomé of sad style. Only students and children get a pass for these. Avoid.
Yes. We have all seen the TV ads where the deadbeat father sits around and belches his way though Christmas. He contributes nothing of worth other than his patriarchal presence. It seems the ad agencies have us earmarked as clowns. So, we should avoid the stereotype then and have our act in order. That means all nearest and dearest should be in our thoughts gift wise. That includes…
Partner, Mother & Mother-in-law
Outwith children, this is your key Christmas cadeaux cohort. Thought and energy required here. Yes, it can seem like an impossible task, but you won’t sort it by burying your head in the sand. One thing is vital though (and I use that word deliberately) and that is it must be obvious there was effort made. Keep an ear out for hints or have an old flick through Cosmopolitan or good newspapers’ “What I want for Xmas” articles or have a search online (Net a Porter has a good gift list). Alternatively, ask the experts at the beauty counters. Tip- Chanel, Tom Ford & Clarins. Maybe sort a weekend away if you sense one is needed (when is it not?). Failing all this then you can brave the underwear section in a decent department store, just get some advice before you buy the lace Santa suit. Novelty presents have had their day at my age.
I do, you probably do as well, but some guys live up to the stereotype. Don’t be one of the Xmas ad Bozos. Make sure everyone has a festive drink and enjoy the family time. I am reliably informed it won’t last forever. If we all do our bit then they might stop making collective fools of in ads and kids’ shows.
Wear some good gear on Xmas day. Dress to impress. Make it your most stylish day of the year and don’t let the side down!
Thanks for reading