The hassle of picking out clothes on a daily basis can be a right pain in the neck. The precious time it takes! The decision-making! Barack Obama wore the same colour suit every day during his time in office simply to ensure one less decision had to be made every day. He was still well dressed of course and most of us don’t quite have the same levels of pressure in our day jobs. We can and should make an effort to dress well and here is why-
Starting the day well
Getting your day off to a decent start is pretty important. The day may well disintegrate by mid-morning, but you can set the tone early by having your clothes out and ready to roll for when you emerge from the shower. Making them an important part of your day will pay dividends.
It does not have to necessarily be a suit or other formalwear. A crisp white shirt with some smart chinos will inform your subconscious that you are ready for the day and whatever it throws at you. The first people you bump into that day will notice it too.
First impressions matter
Whether we like it or not, we are often judged by our appearance. Studies have shown that a well dressed man creates a positive impression. Stylish people project an aura of ability, assurance and confidence. The suited and booted man is also seen as more attractive (more of this later).
All of these positive assumptions that people unknowingly make, will ensure life is that bit easier, whether that be closing a sale, getting the job you want or simply getting served at the bar.
I am echoing Tan from Queer Eye here, when I say that making the effort to be well turned out is a courtesy to others. Dressing up for date night or Sunday lunch is for our family and friends as much as ourselves. I do believe being in good sartorial nick is simply good manners. If you choose to turn up in the creased shirt and battered trainers, then you are only letting yourself down. Don’t be that guy.
Self esteem and confidence
Some days we feel more lethargic or fragile than we would like. If I were a woman, it is on these days I would be reaching for the warpaint. With make-up for men not exactly mainstream, I reach for my best threads instead to boost my confidence and lift my spirits.
What outfit is going to help me have a good day? Clothing you are happy and confident in raises self-esteem. This sense of self-worth improves our attitude and relationships with people and boosts our positivity levels. Healthy self-esteem makes life that bit easier. Modern life can be challenging, so I will gladly take any help I can get. If I am having one of those fatigued fortysomething days, I’d rather be well dressed while enduring it.
The laws of attraction
I said I would come back around to this topic and here we are. Does dressing better make a man more attractive to a passer-by in the supermarket aisle, a prospective partner on a night out or a spouse on a night in? You betcha! Men’s Health and The Opinion Research Corporation asked a panel of women what was the most important physical attribute in a man. The answer was revealed to be his “sense of style.” Yes, I was a little taken aback too. The main takeaway from this as I see it, is that it is something we can all control.
Some men are blessed with charm, good looks, intelligence or are great conversationalists. Some guys are luckier than others. However, every single man has it in him, no matter his age or body shape, to put in the effort and dress better. Maybe after 15 years of marriage you just cannot find the time or the drive. Although understandable up to a point, it is not good enough. We can all do better and I for one prefer my wife’s eyes on me and not any other man in the room.
Top style tip
Fit is everything. Good-fitting clothes are a style priority. Everything follows on from the fit.
A suit should fit properly. If it doesn’t give it to a charity shop or have it altered so it does fit. T-shirts should fit your shape. If they don’t, they won’t look as good on you. A nicely fitted t-shirt will look good on anybody. Make the fit of your clothes your priority. Never mind about if it sparks joy or not, just make sure the fit is right.
Thanks for reading,