I’ve been a bit quiet here recently. I have not been suffering from writer’s block, but I have changed course slightly in the last few weeks. A new job. A rebooted fortysomething man.
I have taken on a new role with a new company. This switch has come after 11 years with the same employer. Sometimes you just run out of road in the one place. A positive change was needed for several reasons.
One of the main reasons I changed was for my own physical and mental health. I was drained. I felt beat up and all out of zest and satisfaction. I needed to be honest with myself. I wasn’t enjoying the work, I was not getting scheduled breaks (you would not like to see me hangry!) and I looked like crap.
Stress was also becoming an overbearing issue on an almost daily basis. I cope with busy environments, but eventually it takes a toll. We’ve all been there at some stage in our lives. This was my time to do something about it. I tried to get more sleep, eat better, plan more and I even started a blog to give me an enjoyable distraction. However, the job remained as it was and the stress kept on coming. Time to change it up.
I am at a stage in my life where my kids are a bit older (now 5 and 9 years old), so my head is a bit clearer and I can actually manage to make decisions seeing as I am past the sleep deprivation and tantrum stage (not including my own hangriness in the latter).
It also occurred to me that you have got to go after what you want in life and avoid blaming others for not giving it to you. I needed an environment that would offer me development opportunities and somewhere that would motivate me. Intellectual stimulation, training, a support network of colleagues and peers all lead to improved performance and a healthy mind. If my head is in a good place it taps directly into me being a better all round guy at home too. I needed to think about that angle too. Pretty vital is the old family relationship situation!
Doing the same stuff day in day out inevitably leads to a tapering off of job satisfaction, but also increases your chances of dementia in later years. I need to keep my brain working at a certain level. Learning new stuff, meeting new people, implementing new systems will keep my mental fitness up and this will stand to me in future years.
I’ve already done a coaching skills course. Corporate claptrap or a new skill to learn? Whatever way you look at it, it’s better than being fried in a dead end position! New skills, new me.
The pursuit of happiness
In my previous role I was unhappy. It took me a hell of a long time to acknowledge that. Acceptance that there was a problem and my working environment was a large part of it was an important step. We all want to be happy. Most of us need to work. So, if it’s not working I had to take responsibility for my part in tolerating an unhappy part of my life and make a move. No job is perfect, but I couldn’t blame others for my predicament if I wasn’t willing to do anything about it.
I went in search of a company who could provide me with fulfilment in the workplace. I got an interview, the job and gave my notice to my then employer. Almost immediately I started sleeping better, I was in a better mood and I had more appetite for everything in my day to day life. Making the decision. Shifting the balance of power back to me. It felt good. Still does.
New job is going well. Early days, but I like it. Am I happier? Undoubtedly! Do I get to buy a few new outfits for the new job? You better believe it!